It has been brought more and more to my attention lately that perfection has been ruining my life.
Well, I have allowed it to ruin my life.
Although in my defence, it was unconscious for much of my life until recently
Deciding to embark on a spiritual journey is not as airy fairy and all doves and butterflies as it may seem.
The truth is…
Why is it hard?
Well, because it means that we have to look at ALL aspects of ourselves.
And one doesn’t accept all those parts of ourselves all at once.
It takes time.
It takes experiences
It takes relationships
It takes love
It take being hurt
It takes hurting others
It takes facing the lighter and darker sides of ourselves (as much as we’d all like to think that we only have a light side)
Righteousness and facing one’s
So much of my “perfection” has been showing up lately – in wanting to only share when in “My Perfection”
Being on a 28 day juice fast and January Health kick has really opened my eyes along with some other less favourable sides of myself that I am having to face.
On day 23 of the juice fast – I started to crave saltiness and more than anything, I really wanted to have some Bhuja mix that was in the pantry …this was a craving I just couldn’t surpass.
I know that it is a choice
And my choice was to not have this craving consume me – so I had it.
About a large handful of it
And I did it again on Day 25 of Juice Fast.
Through that decision, came an important lesson and realisation.
I was upfront with my family about the fact that I had the Bhuja mix and through the disappointment in their eyes and energy – I realised that it is me who created this perfection expectation.
Whenever I embark on these journeys, I always expect myself to get through it without a hitch – even if it means that I may completely fall off the wagon by the end of it….just so that I can demonstrate that I completed it in perfection.
This time, I felt that it was important for me to NOT be in what I see as complete perfection as perfection creates restriction.
Restriction then just turning into something that I feel like I have to fight against or try to break free from!
Allowing myself to have small imperfections during the process, allows the lessons to be revealed and allows me to feel less pressure.
It’s amazing how such a simple act can bring deep perspective.
When walking through the fears instead of running away from it
Through all the hard work on this journey, eventually – as you allow it – the butterflies and blissful moments do come
When you ensure not to miss those moments and celebrate the realisations and better self-understanding
And this is an even easier road with support on our journey….
When we have positive, supportive, like minded relationships – these things can be vented and off our chests
Even as I write this blog entry – I have to consciously release my need for perfection and allow my imperfections to show – because I want others – especially women – to know that it is ok to be imperfect.
The word itself can be so defining but it is the word that best describes my point and sharing of my experience.
Yes we are spiritual beings, experiencing a human life
Part of that experience, comes the imperfections for us to learn more about our true authentic selves
It’s a process and everyday is a progress – bringing us closer to our true essence.
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REMEMBER: STRIVE FOR PROGRESS – NOT PERFECTION!